Something a *little* scary dawned on me today.
I have been graduated for as long as I was actually at university. Say WHAAAT.
For three whole years I have been fakin’ it till I make it as a functioning adult in the world (defo haven’t quite made it just yet).
Being a freshly graduated lass is pretty scary, nat gonna lie. After throwing that mortarboard up into the air, feelin’ like an academic sass queen with all your pals and consuming 12398 jaeger bombs to celebrate surviving the past 16 years of education, you feel well…. A tad lost.
Ya see, up until this point everything has been pretty much set out in for you.
School, college, university. All neatly timetabled, following a some sort of curriculum and a load of support in place to help you achieve your goals. The moment you receive your certificate, it’s down to you gal. The ball is in your court, and ya gotta make it werk.
I remember packing up my room and moving out of the gaff I shared with five of my best pals, arriving back at my Mumma’s house and feeling SO bladdy odd.
Feeling like the past three years of independence, adventures and Glen’s vodka was merely a dream, and I had woken up right back at square one.
Obvs you are gonna have aaaall the confusing feels when a huge chapter of your life comes to an end. But it ain’t all bad. You have some crazy adventures ahead of you, ya just gotta embrace each opportunity that comes your way. Keep reminding yourself that can achieve absolutely anything if you put the graft in.
Although I am still trying to figure it all out, I have learnt a few tings over the past three years when it comes to tings like internships and life as a graduate.
SO here ya have it…
I remember my first ever internship after university.
It started the day after I handed in my dissertation and I was buzzin’. Ready to jump headfirst into the industry after being cooped up for months on end with nothin’ but chocolate buttons, a Disney megamix and a thesaurus to keep me company. To keep things short, it didn’t turn out so great.
I was a ‘lil flustered and I had a lot to learn. But y’know, that is what internships are aaall about. Fast paced companies don’t always embrace this, and they let me down. It massively knocked my confidence just as I stepped into the world of work with kiiiinda sucked. BUT I kept smiling, working mi socks off, and actually, although it proved to me that it ain’t always an easy ride, it most def gave me even more motivation to work harder.
Social in terms of social media AND social in terms of seeing other humans and getting that booty out the gaff and in a cocktail bar or summin’.
During uni, most of my snaps on Instagram were grainy snippets of nights out, Tweets about how many hours I had amounted in the library, ya get the gist. Buuuut platforms like Twitter and Instagram can be RIGHT babes when it comes to getting yourself out there.
It makes it super easy to connect with folks in your industry, widening your circle and landing you a load of kewl opportunities. Social media is key for the creative industries, so don’t be afraid to reach out to people and maybs arrange a cheeky coffee to soak up some wisdom.
Also, stay social in an actual IRL kinda way too. Despite the sudden lack of student loan instalments *weeps*, keep seeing your home gals, be a yes person and explore. It can be V tempting to stay in with ya rents with cheese boards, wine and a cheeky bath with yo’ mummas snazzy Jo Malone bath oil (bliss) BUT it is important to strike a balance.
PREPARATION CREATES OPPORTUNITIES
This lil phrase has stuck with me for so long now. And it is so bladdy true. Keeping yourself prepped is SO key. When you feel on top of your sh*t, ya feel very much like a functioning gal boss and things slip into place very quickly. I need a bit of organisation in my life and I definitely need to look after my things.
I used to be a handbag gal (+ two canvas bags carrying all my other ‘necessities’.) However, my scoliosis has different ideas and I had to get myself a backpack. I can’t tell ya the joy of being handsfree and still having all your bits and bobs to hand, the simple things ey? Radley treated me to this beaut backpack which snuggly fits in my laptop and errythannng. Sweet as a nut.
It seems like a helluva lotta pressure when you first graduate. Moving home, CV writing, job hunting and all that lark. All very dreamy (naaat). I took a lil step back from the madness when I first graduated, had a f*ck it moment and applied to be an Elf at Harrods.
It was hands down probably one of the best jobs gal has ever had. So many lols with new chums and some time to get my thoughts together after the uni madness. There isn’t any rush to get straight into the grind, fancy an adventure? Go for it. Wanna be an Elf? Go for it. There is no right path, you gotta do what makes you truly happy and don’t settle for any less.
DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK QUESTIONS
It is OK to ask questions.
People bladdly LOVE it when they are asked questions. They love that you are coming to them for wisdom and advice. Of course, you can Google the obvious, but staying inquisitive and curious is an amazing thing.
Initially I was SO nervous to ask questions, I didn’t want to disturb or worried that I sounded silly. When I had interns back in the world of PR, it was so nice when they asked questions and really got involved and into the nitty gritty of it all!
KEEP AN OPEN MIND
Life has so many twists and turns to throw at ya. I used to find this really difficult as I hated any sort of change, but as a 20 sumin gal in London, you gotta get used to it. Having an open mind is so freeing. You never know where small opportunities could take you, and you never know until you try. If I wasn’t encouraged by my friends of fam, I would have missed out on so many amazing chapters of my life!
CARVE YOUR OWN PATH
This is such an important one to remember. Life is far too short to stay in anything that doesn’t fulfil you or make you happy. If something isn’t going to plan, or you hate getting out of bed in the morning, change it. Make no hesitations and in the wise words of Nike, JUST DO IT. You won’t regret it, I promise.
Ugh comparison really is the thief of joy isn’t it? Such a horrid lil gremlin that pops up out of the blue every so often just to, I dunno, rain on your parade or summin.
It is totally natural to compare yourself to others. Especially as these days it is all up in your grill on Instagram etcetc. But try your best and keep perspective. You only ever see a snippet of peoples lives on social media / blogs / vlogs, and that is mostly the highlights.
You do you. Take motivation and inspiration from others but remember that everyone is different, and everyone is tackling their own battles that you know nothing about.
Basically, what the whole point of this post is to say don’t give up. Whatever it is you want to do, gurl you gotta give it aaaall you got. Surround yourself with people who inspire you. Go to talks, events and say yes. Create new adventures, try new things and stay focussed. You are SO strong and can handle everything that comes your way, I believe in ya!
I would love to know your words of wisdom, what stage are ya at right now? Anyone else mildy freaked about how long they have been graduated?!