At the grand ole age of 23 (24 on Sunday, say whaaat) I have flicked through a few chapters of ma life.
It is kinda weird to think that my childhood, teens, uni and general adolescence is behind me. I am an actual adult, in my 20’s. Though who am I kidding? I will forever be 8 at heart >:) I still wear my turquoise dressing gown I received in 2004 and I still have a Jasmine (Aladdin) figurine on my bedside table, lol.
I have learnt a few lessons over the years. From learning that all leggings in the land are see-through, to learning that all you really need to be happy is someone who makes ya laugh. I have much more to learn fo’sho, I just haven’t got to that chapter quite yet. Spooky thought, innit?
I LOVE hearing other peoples life experiences ‘n’ advice, so I thought I would share mine. I scribbled down a list of about 19237 but y’know, we don’t wanna be here all bloomin’ day, so here are my top 24. Coz y’know, gals gonna be 24 n all. Let’s go!
DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY
I know, starting with the obvious here! There has been a few of these defining moments in the past few years. Times of feeling confuzzled and not sure quite where you wanna be in life, you just know that you need to switch it up. Never be afraid to make a change, and never stick around in anything that makes ya feel down in the dumps. Life is far too short for that kinda kodswallop, I promise you won’t regret it.
EMBRACE YOUR YOUTH
So yeah, that cute lil 28AA bra from New Look was possibly one of the silliest purchases of all time. Another silly move was plucking my eyebrows into tadpoles, dry-shaving my legs age 12 and thinning / putting bleach blonde highlights in my hair (uber glam). Embrace your youth and natural beauty… Before ya know it you will be buying anti-aging serum. MmHMM.
RELATIONSHIPS AIN’T EVERYTHING
Don’t sweat it if all ya chums have boyfs / girlfs and you a single pringle. I craved a boyf for bloomin’ yonks and the moment I was like y’know, this single life ain’t so bad, Matt strolled right into ma life. The right people will come your way, but in the mean time, do your thing gal.
ALCOHOL IS NEVER THE CURE
Feeling anxious about a party / night out? Alcohol ain’t yo’ bezzie. Steer clear from the Glen’s *shudders* and take it easy. The spirits tend to make my anxiety much worse. A few glasses of prosecs is ight but remember, you are just fun, sassy and have all those corker moves for the D floor when sober. AND you will be in tip top condition the next day, yaaas.
IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS
It is always the seemingly insignificant things that really matter. Smiling at people you pass on the street, giving up your seat, making an unexpected cuppa T for friends, showing appreciation for things people do for you out of the kindness of their own heart. It’s the small things you do to make someone else’s life a little more sweet, that’s what really makes the world go round.
DRESS SIZES DON’T MEAN A THANG
I used to stress myself out SO much about this one. I remember a time when my mum gently told me that a size 10 may fit a little better. There were tears and I felt so conscious and upset about the whole situ. But the thing is, dress sizes are totally different in every single shop! Also, who blimmin’ cares? The dress still looks amazing on you, no matter what the number is. Don’t let it upset ya, you look beaut.
DON’T LET A FOLLOWER COUNT GET YA DOWN
It is crazy how much a number on a screen can affect my mood, almost like the letter ‘k’ next to a number takes you to this magical place. With blogging, there is a whole loada pressure on this. I find it pretty negative and don’t think it does much good for anyone involved. Unfortunately ‘numbers’ are still the main way to gain opportunities, but I am hoping maybe one day that will change.
A SHOPPING TROLLEY MAKES LIFE (AND THE WEEKLY SHOP) 100% EASIER
Don’t try to take an ASDA trolley on the tube, it never ends well. Instead, get yourself one of those sassy two wheel trolleys (like this). I know, they ain’t that cool I admit. But I have all potatoes and tins and bottles of prosecco and you have a sore back, so who’s the real winner eeey? >:)
“LIFE IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU’RE BUSY MAKING OTHER PLANS”
Life is also what happens when you are refreshing your social feeds for the 12039th time. Learn to pop your phone down, on silent, and be completely in the present for a while. People watch. Listen to the birds as you walk to work in the morning. Get involved in the discussion at dinner. You will find yourself savoring life more when you aren’t temporarily absorbed in someone elses.
A LIL DATE NEVER HURT ANYBODY
Saying yes to that casual mid week date may not be such a bad thing. Ok, ok, even if you do have your chums secretly watching from the back of the pub (true story, soz Matt), it may be the best decision you have made for a long time. Go for it. #YOLO n all that.
NIGHTS IN ARE THE ONE
I would defo go for a night in over a night out on the town. If you don’t fancy a night out, it’s cool. Getting your pals together and spending the £10 club entry free on pizza and snacks instead is MUCH more appealing. Also, sleepovers never get old. I wrote a little more about this here.
ENJOY THE MOMENT
You never know what is waiting round the corner. Cherish each and every moment, always let people know how much you love them and make time for the people closest to you.
TRY NOT TO SPEND ALL YA DOLLAR IN COFFEE SHOPS
Try not to spend all ya dollar in Pret / Starbs / coffee shop of choice. Buy yourself a big ole box of PG Tips and make your own hot bevs, save the money – it will make a huge difference!
PREPARATION CREATES OPPORTUNITIES
A wise man once told me. Wanna achieve those dreams? Prepare, get yo’ sh*t together, get dressed and be ready. Focus, determination and pure hard graft will always pay off. If you really put your mind to it, you can achieve anything. I promise ya.
IF YOU FANCY CAKE, HAVE IT
Looking after your health is obviously V important. Eating grub that nourishes your body (& soul) and moving enough to get the endorphins pumpin’ will keep you feeling wonderful. However at no point will any of this deny you of one of the most wonderful things in life: cake. If you want a slice of viccy sponge or a delicious gooey brownie with your cuppa T? Go for it. It will make you and your taste buds content. Don’t chow down an entire cake on the reg, but what is life if you don’t treat yo’self?
GRANNY PANTS WILL ALWAYS BE NO.1
You will dabble in the world of thongs, but really, granny pants (ahem, bloomers – sorry granny) will always come out on top. I do love me a lil lace frenchie, but if I can to wear one knicker style for the rest of my life? Granny pants hands down.
EMBRACE THE WEIRDNESS
You are never too weird. We are all a little strange inside, even if our exterior is cool, calm ‘n’ collected. Ya just gotta break down the barriers. I think I can been called weird at least once a day for my whole life, It used to make me feel a lil conscious, but now I just take it in my stride. Be yourself, stay weird, people love you for it.
MENTAL HEALTH IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS THE COMMON COLD
Everyone has a brain. They are complex, incredible and sometimes have a way of creative a bit of chaos. I have learnt over the years that is is all about subtle prevention and taking time to learn the warning signs. There is absolutely nothing to feel ashamed about and you are never alone.
Every human on this planet has insecurities and issues you probably know nothing about. Always take time to be kind, show some love and make someones day that little bit easier. Of course, stand your ground, but intentionally doing something to hurt another? ain’t nobody got time for that.
SEND THE EMAIL, TAKE THE PLUNGE, SAY YES
Spontaneity is the absolute best. That rush of adrenaline that keeps us on our toes and keeps things fresh. Taking opportunities (big or small) can lead you to the most amazing places, but you will never know unless you take that chance.
CHECK YOUR DIARY
Punctuality and being reliable is a ting. Having to please the world and his dog isn’t. If you are too busy, have other plans or just don’t feel up to it, be honest. Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy, people will be much happier that way! I have let many a friend down by trying not to let them down. The mind boggles. Keep a diary, plan your week and be totally honest with yourself.
GRADES AREN’T EVERYTHING
One of the key life lessons learnt maaaybe too late for most of us. There is SO much bloomin’ stress put on nippers to get the best grades, get into the best uni and get the best job. Don’t let ’em pave your path for you. Networking and gaining all the experience is much more worth your time, and more fun.
TURN ON THE LIGHT
One of my fave quote from wise ole Dumbledore: “Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.”
Throughout the crazy journey that is life, things happen (obviously). There are sad scenes taking place around the world, even down the road. But you have to find that ounce of positivity. Think about the kind hearts of everyone trying to help, the people who ran into danger to save another, the people volunteering to make the world a better place. That’s what ya gotta think of.
HAPPINESS IS SIMPLE
The feeling of pure happiness is sometimes just chuckling with your other half, no amount of money can top that precious human interaction. <3
Corrrr blimey, that took about 19283 years to write. It is quite the task condensing a whole 23 years of experience and lessons into one blog post. What lil nuggets of life lessons do you have?