Thoughts on Going OUT Out

Immy May Blogger

I love a boogie. Sippin’ cool prosecco or some (any) sort of cocktail and having a good ole dance with my chums.

One example being my most recent vlog, getting ma groove on with gal pals up in Manchester. It was SO fun, I laughed from start to finish and will cherish the memories for a long time. But I had a thought. The weekend was centred on the night out, but that wasn’t the highlight for me.

The highlights were sitting in Five Guys for hours weeping with laughter, getting spruced up and drinking prosecco out of plastic cups, playing bogeys in the middle of Manchester Piccadilly station (shoot me now) and generally reverting back to the 14 year olds we really are.

The actual night out in Manchester was probs my least fave in all honesty. Friggin’ rude bouncers, poker faced door girls, £10 entry fees, general betches and sleazy men. Ughhhh it makes me shudder just thinking about it! I just ain’t about that club life anymore.

I don’t drink much, I can’t stand seeing power fuelled bouncers being rude / aggressive towards my friends, I think the rule of men needing to wear shirts / women needing to look attractive (to the bouncer) is ridic. I did have a little rant about this on camera at 3AM whilst sliiightly drunk, but cut it out cos lolz I didn’t make too much sense.

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I still wanted to have a chinwag about it though, because I feel like we might be in the same boat?

As a lass in her early 20’s, nights out are a big part of my social life. I fo’sho enjoy a night out, I like chilled bars with nice people and 90’s bangers, sassy cocktail bars that make me feel like a Sex in the City lass, dancing through the night covered in mud / beer at a festival. I like the nights that you don’t have to care. The nights where you don’t feel you need dem 6 inch heels and fake eyelashes.

Just gonna throw it out there, I LOVE a night in. Nipping down the road for late night yoga sesh, spending time making a deelish super and sharing a few glasses of vino snuggled on the sofa with mi boyf. Having a clan of friends round for a fajita night, or having your closest gal pal over for a nice pamper sesh. I don’t feel the FOMO, I just feel content and happy.

Maybe I’m getting old, but I kinda like it.

Are you still a partaaaaaaaay animal, or are ya a takeaway / dinner soiree / low key cocktails lass like me?


  • Ellie Adams

    Immy I friggin love this, I am THE biggest night in girl but if I do go out, it’s always the getting ready and 3am food runs that are my fave. Clubs are my worst nightmare haha!


    • YAS gally. It is so much more enjoyable! I am exactly the same, love getting spruced up / trying out all mi gal pals make up, but oh sweet lord the best part is food on the way home. I am such a cheesy chips fiend! I actually really dislike clubs, not sure why I do it to myself haha! I hope you are having the best time in Copenhagen my love! Immy x

  • I’m only 18 but I am such a night in girl, I like just going somewhere for a drink, preferably a cocktail, but I’m just not keen on clubs, I’d rather have a cup of tea home watching tv haha xx

    • Yes Jasmine! I was exactly the same at 18. I was at uni so errrrryone was going out pretty much every day of the week. I didn’t really see the hype at all! Cuppa T and TV sounds perfect to me :) Immy x

  • I stay in a lot more now! I get fed up of paying entrance fees and feeling squished into a club like a sardine! x

    • Ughhhh entrance fees, the most ridiculous thing! Having no room to dance / move is no fun either haha! Immy x

  • Totally with you on this Immy!! I’d take a nice bar with some cocktails ANY day over a night out in a club. It’s always the getting ready or the morning after when we all wake up and spend hours hanging out that I like the best anyway, and basically the only reason I even go. And nights in are just the best! xx

    Frances Kayleigh | Beauty Fashion Lifestyle

    • Yes me too! SO much better having chats and cocktails! Lol me too, hungover lazy days with ya gals are the best bit! Immy x

  • I’m with ya! I’m all about nice dinners and getting tiddly on many cocktails thesedays rather than clubbing! x

    Sophie Cliff

    • Absolutely! Definitely appreciate a nice place with lovely cocktails / nibbles far more! Immy x

  • I’m 18 and have only been out twice and its been a fair few months now haha – I love just staying in, watching a movie with snacks!

    Lucy | Forever September

    • Yes! I was exactly the same at 18! I remember going to a few freshers events and being like eeeeeeeeeeew. lol! movies, snacks and tea >:) perf! Immy x

  • Laura Torninoja

    “Maybe I’m getting old, but I kinda like it.”

    Tell me about it! I remember about 6-7 years ago thinking “I will never bore of this” and going out (albeit never in club clubs, more indie/rock bars with a dancefloor) every weekend. Now I can’t even imagine how I handled those hangovers EVERY weekend! I still love going dancing to good music and drinking amazing cocktails, but I think staying out until 4-5am can only happen like once a year (on my birthday haha) if possible! x

    Laura // Middle of Adventure

    • Lol! I know whatcha mean, was such a norm! I also get 2 day hangovers these days which are no fun haha! Oh definitely, I get SO tired after about 1/2ish! I like this low key cocktails and a bit of boogie kinda life >:) Immy x

  • Haha yes I’m totes not about that club life so much these days but I still crave a dance when I’ve had a few drinks. I just prefer those bars which turn into a dancefloor at some point in the night, or even my friend’s living room will do ha! I am really getting over hangovers as well. Definitely feeling them more these days than I did 5 years ago!

    • Yesss I am so up for a bit of a boogie and a few drinks! Bars with dance floors are the perfect balance I think, but yes we do tend to use the kitchen / living room too! hehe. I know, scary isn’t it! I’m not sure how I used to cope! Immy x

  • I’m the same! I am mostly over the party animal life!

    • Yessss gal, join the club! >:) Immy x

  • Hahahaha I love the bit where you say how you had the rant but had to cut it out because it didn’t make much sense – I completely get you girl ahaha xxx

    • Looool drunk rambling on camera is never a good idea haha! Immy x

  • Meredith

    Haha I used to love nights out when I was in my early 20s, but once I got to my late 20s that totally changed (and I NEVER thought it would). Now I love getting cozy on the couch with my boyfriend, sharing some wine and going to sleep at a reasonable time. Enjoy the nights out while you can!

    • Yes! I know what you mean, I still love a good dance in a nice bar – althhhouuuugh maybe I am going to all the wrong places! But yes, sofa time with the boyf with wine and pizza followed by an early night is SO perfect for me haha! Immy x

  • ninegrandstudent

    I’m definitely a more low key kinda gal – there’s something about getting sweaty in a noisy club that doesn’t quite do it for me! Nothing wrong with a classy few cocktails in a bar/dinner/film night etc!

    NINEGRANDSTUDENT: A Lifestyle Blog

    • Ugh I know gal, so grim haha! Love the low key drinks, it is nice to actually have a proper conversation too! Immy x

  • I COMPLETELY agree with this. It must be our age? The ‘night out’ of a night out is definitely my least favourite part. I love getting ready (#makeupaddict), drinking with the girls and the hysterical-giggle-taxi-home but the night out is always such a disappointment. Dinner parties FTW! So glad I found your blog – it’s gorgeous! Lauren |

    • I think it might be!? Although I feel like I should still be up for it more than I am :/ judging by the comments I think we are all in the same boat! Getting ready, drinking then the taxi home (and food stop!) are my favourite bits for sure! YAS love a dinner party, definitely the way forward. Thank you so much my love :) Can’t wait to have a read of yours! Immy x

  • I am definitely like you! Not only do I hate the power the bouncers have, I also hate the way most bar staff behave, how rude people are around me and drunk. I hate the feeling of being very hungover on the next day! I love nights in and home parties, small gatherings with close friends and actually using the weekend to relax so that I am full of energy for the next week :)


    • I know it is so rubbish isn’t it?! I don’t understand why they have to be so rude, it puts me off so much. Me too :) Such a better way to spend our time! I always feel so much better and more positive ready to tackle the next week! Immy x

  • Hayley Rubery

    Girl YES to this – I’m SO with you! Was slightly concerned that I was getting old alone haha. As much as I love the occasional night out with my girls and dancing until stupid o’clock, my favourite nights are catch ups with my girls, sipping prosecco and laughing until we cry. As we get older I prefer to actually be able to talk to them, and know what’s going on in their lives rather than trying to drunkenly lip read in a club! Here’s to be 20 YO grannies lady! <3

    Hayley xo

    • looool we are definitely on the same page ere! Definitely, prosecco, chats and cry laughing is the best way to spend the evening. YES, especially as it is so rare we actually get to spend the weekend together – I need to get the full low down! 20 YO grannies FO LYF. Immy x

  • I completely agree with you! I’ve never really enjoyed clubbing and much prefer pubs, bars and nights in! I kind of prefer being able to hear what the people around me are saying and I’m terrible at dancing so it just never worked out for me :p xxx
    Lucy @ La Lingua | Life, Travel, Italy

    • Yesss, all about the pub / bar life. A much better way to just have a nice catch up with people around you! I always find myself just shouting over the music otherwise haha! Immy x

  • to be honest i was never a party girl even in my third year at uni i could count how many clubs and nights out ive been to during what supposed to be my ‘wild years’. i was more of a bar girl and adore a good movie night in. i dont think you’re getting old, i think for most people theres just a change of perception.

    • Totally agree with you Eloise! I was similar at uni – I felt that I needed to go on these nights out and be ‘wild’ but it just wasn’t my thing! Nights out have always been a bit of an anxious ordeal for me, so low key drinks / nights in with chums was my preferred way to spend the evening. You are right about perception, definitely isn’t an age thing! I think I have just matured into realising that ya gotta be honest with yourself and stop doing things that don’t actually make you happy. Immy x

  • Patricia Stelmach

    I’ve always loved a good night out and getting absolutely wasted (blame it on uni!) But for the past year, I completely stopped. I don’t feel the need for it anymore and being hungover the next day is such a waste! I’ve possibly ‘over-done it’ and now I just don’t enjoy it anymore!

    Patricia // Patricia Stelmach

    • Yes haha! Has to be done at uni >:) I totally know what you mean, definitely don’t feel the urge to go out on a big one anymore! I hate wasting my days being hungover to aha! So glad we are all in the same boat here! Immy x

  • Love this post – love the photos, it’s all so pretty!! I don’t enjoy going out as much anymore (older age kicking in haha) but when it comes to events, that’s different and always really exciting. I just prefer meeting friends and family and going out for meals etc and having a good old chat! :)

    Layla xx

    • Thank you Layla mi love :) Yes you are right about events, I still love them! I find the prospect of meeting new people really exciting – I always come away having learnt something interesting too. I am the same, a nice meal out and a chinwag is perfect for me! Immy x

  • I do lots of Latin social dancing and I love it I so if I go out out and the music is in Spanish count me in.
    But like, dancing around like a piece of sizzling bacon on deep house music when there’s nothing to sing along to and you lost your friends in the crowd? Please, I have a cookie recipe from Food52 to test out.

    • Oooooh nice! Where do you go?! My friend LOVES going salsa dancing, I need to go with her one time! Truuuuust haha sizzling bacon, love it! That hits the nail on the head, if it was bangin’ 90’s tunes that we knew all the words too and it wasn’t so cramped and ‘orrible, I would think again. Looool we are SO on the same page. Baking over night clubs for life. Immy x

  • I am for sure at that stage in life where I prefer a low key night with lovely cocktails or a fun night in with friends. I do enjoy a night out though but they usually happen unexpectedly, like when I go out for “one drink” after work or when a few drinks in Manchester turns into missing the last train and having to wait until the early hours for the first one back home. There’s no problem with not wanting to go OUT out, it’s whatever makes you happy :)

    Emma |

  • Go with the flow! If you’re in the mood, head out and boogey on the dance floor, otherwise nights in are always fun too! My party days are long over, I prefer to be at home with my guy and child (dog) haha xo

  • I’m the same. I like a night in and I’ve never been about that clubbing lifestyle.


    • Yes I actually don’t think I have either!? I feel like there is a lot of peer pressure when it comes to going out! ALL about the night in life <3 Thank you for stopping by chick :) Immy x

  • Holly Watkins

    This is 100% me at this point in my life. I’m all about the cocktail the laughs, mainly at ourselves doing hilarious snap chat videos but never uploading them, good food, good vibes and no protencious idiots thinking you have to be something/someone to get in a club that ultimatly is pretty shit.

    Loving your blog and your Vlogs.


    • Yesss! Ya know what, I had the ladies round for a sleepover (never gets old) at the weekend, we drank wine, ordered pizza and chinwagged till 5AM, sitting round my kitchen table for hours on end was WAY better than the club – we actually got to catch up properly! Snap chat is just endless entertainment haha! Thank you so much Holly, means the world. Immy x