It has almost been a WHOLE BLOOMIN’ YEAR since I moved in with mi boyfriend Matt. Time really does fly, doesn’t it?
Not gonna lie, it was a scary transition. It dawned on my that oh jezos am I actually a legit adult now? Isn’t there some sort of exam you must pass? Is this actually my own home… Our home?
To be fair, I answered the door to someone in my dressing gown the other day and they asked if my parents were in. So probs not quite there yet.
Anyway, living with a boyf. A new chapter of your life that is crazy exciting, amazing and a little bit nerve-racking. There are so many what if’s and the slight possibility that it could go all go t*ts up. When making the decision after almost a year together, we figured that at least if it didn’t work out, we know sooner rather than later… right?
Thankfully it worked out pretty nicely.
I have loved every moment living with my best chum, starting and ending every day in laughter, making normal life just that little bit more bright. <3
You might live with your other half already, you might have NO interest in this whatsoever or you might be thinking about making the move. If so, here 10 things that may just happen hehe. Enjoy!
FORGET ABOUT TOILET FEAR
I know, diving in at the deep end here. However, this was legit something I was scared about. I think this sort of ‘fear’ is normal… my friend Hayley even made this video (loool) after I told her about my woes. Funnily enough, one of our house warming presents from Matt’s mum was a heart shaped sign for the bathroom door that read ‘POO ROOM’ on it. I laughed so hard I wept, but it broke the ice. There is no hiding when you live in a flat together. You look after each other regardless of the issue. Food poisoning happened within the first few weeks, so that was fun. Sh*t happens, literally.
YOU WILL FEEL VERY GROWN UP VERY QUICKLY
We ain’t just talkin’ about bright and early Sunday IKEA shops oh no, things get serious. Next thing you know you’ll be strolling around John Lewis like #ballers choosing a coffee machine as a gift to each other for Christmas. SO worth all those delicious weekend morning frothy coffees tho.
NIGHTS IN BECOME APPEALING
I am always victim to FOMO. I hate missing nights out / random adventures / any social ting that I can’t make for some reason. It is still important to make time to let your hair down with the gals / guys but nights in with yo’ other half are nice too. I can’t think of anything better than cooking something comforting (baked camembert) or getting a takeaway, cracking open a bottle of wine and just chillin’ with each other.
YOU MIGHT EVEN START TO LIKE FOOTBALL
Or you might already be a fan of football, if so ignore this point. But you would have never of caught me sitting on the edge of my seat making those ‘OOFFFT’ and ‘AWWW COME OONNNN!’ kinda noises at the TV before living with Matt. For a while I buried my head in my laptop whilst the game was on, but now I actually enjoy a good game of football. #liverpoolforlife #whatismylife?
YOUR WARDROBE SPACE HALVES
In fact, he will probably have more clothes that you do. Have a think about extra storage and where you might be able to keep all your garms without them being squished into a chest of drawers / at the bottom of a wardrobe *weeps*. The plus side to this is that you can wear his jumpers when you fancy it, style up some of his shirts and maaaaaaybe even wear boxers from time to time. Trrrrust me on this one, comfiest pants you will ever find. Ever.
THE WEIRDNESS WILL ONLY INCREASE
You probably know by now that I am a weird person. Initially I wasn’t sure Matt would understand but I was so wrong. When you live with each other the weirdness walls come down very quickly. Strange habits, voices, names, conversations. It is hilarious, but from an outsiders view it is VERY odd. Just the way I like it.
YOU WILL HOST DINNER PARTIES
You will host dinner parties like actual adults. Have I turned into my parents? I’m not sure. But it is really nice to whip up a corker of a roast / have a big ole fajita night with friends in your own gaff. We even had a Halloween dinner party, we carved pumpkins and everything. YOU KNOW WHERE THE PARTY’S AT.
DATE NIGHTS ARE STILL IMPORTANT
Ok so you see each other every day. But it is completely different sitting around eating dinner in your dressing gown / doing the washing / cleaning the bathroom than actual dating. You still need to fancy each other, keep the relationship fun and not your leaking sink get in the way of that. Dress up and go out for dinner, have a spontaneous adventure, go for brunch, have a weekend away. Aim to have ‘date night’ every few weeks.
YOU ARE A TEAM
Much more than ever before. You share errythaaang. Not only the general bits like food, dollar, toilet roll etc. You are each others support system. You take care of each other no matter what, going out of your way just to make their day easier. Even their ‘ladmin’ (lad admin) like ironing shirts and pairing their socks. Yup, s’all part of the deal.
YOU WILL HAVE MOMENTS
The moments where you suddenly think oh sweet jeepers I live with the BOY in our own flat, who I share a room with and oh ma daaays suddenly you and your 13 year old self are freaking out. But it’s all good, in fact it might just be the best thing you’ve ever done. N’awwwh *sicksinmouth*
What are your thoughts?! I would LOVE to know if you agree with these and what your experience has been.